So I haven't gotten married yet... I'm not quite there yet but here are a few know will be an adjustment once the big day comes for me and for you :)
First Month
Living with someone of the opposite gender
Sharing a bed with someone
House responsibilities
Sharing finances with someone
Establishing rituals like:
---How you greet each other
---Prayer and Scripture reading together (if you are religious)
---Morning routines
---etc. etc. etc.
Establishing boundaries
Rules of your home
Learning how to be self reliant as a couple
Sharing schedules
Love life/ Sex
Balancing social life/ creating friends together
First Year Adjustments
House responsibilities ( who will mow the lawn, cook dinner, clean the bathroom)
Finances (some things carry over from the month to the year)
Possibility of children
Family Traditions
The list of things to adjust to could go on and on and on.... If you have more ideas, please leave a comment below!
-Lacey
Saturday, February 20, 2016
Getting Married
I just have to say, this topic couldn't be more perfect for me.
What I'm about to share is a very special story. It's my love story. Its how I found the love of my life. At first, I didn't know I had found him. It took time, but I am so thankful for all the little things that brought us together. It's kind of an insane story actually......
When I was in the 5th grade it was announced that I would start going to a different elementary school. I was SO ANGRY. I can't even tell you how many times I cried over that when I was 11. I finally realized it was inevitable, and I prepared myself to go to a new school in August. It was then that I met Hunter for the very first time. In fact, he sat next to me in class.... and I even told him his desk was messy... (what a kind soul I was.)
All through middle school and high school we were in classes together. He didn't pay attention to me, and I didn't pay attention to him. I went to high school dances with many of his friends, but Hunter and I weren't really all that great of pals, we just knew of each other. Each of us dated other people in high school. Then, Hunter left for a LDS mission. I later choose to serve a mission, and we were called to the same place. We became friends when we were in the same area, but didn't think anything about it. We were both strictly focused on teaching others about Christ and His gospel.
When I returned from my mission in September, Hunter and I started talking again.... in fact, the day after I got home we ran into each other in the store and I met Hunter's whole family. When I left the store, Hunter's dad told him that he should try taking me on a date.....eventually that date led to another date, and another date, and it continues on to our engagement.
When I was in the 5th grade it was announced that I would start going to a different elementary school. I was SO ANGRY. I can't even tell you how many times I cried over that when I was 11. I finally realized it was inevitable, and I prepared myself to go to a new school in August. It was then that I met Hunter for the very first time. In fact, he sat next to me in class.... and I even told him his desk was messy... (what a kind soul I was.)
All through middle school and high school we were in classes together. He didn't pay attention to me, and I didn't pay attention to him. I went to high school dances with many of his friends, but Hunter and I weren't really all that great of pals, we just knew of each other. Each of us dated other people in high school. Then, Hunter left for a LDS mission. I later choose to serve a mission, and we were called to the same place. We became friends when we were in the same area, but didn't think anything about it. We were both strictly focused on teaching others about Christ and His gospel.
When I returned from my mission in September, Hunter and I started talking again.... in fact, the day after I got home we ran into each other in the store and I met Hunter's whole family. When I left the store, Hunter's dad told him that he should try taking me on a date.....eventually that date led to another date, and another date, and it continues on to our engagement.
There are so many details I left out, but you get the idea. :)
As Hunter and I were looking at rings, we kept looking at extravagant rings that we wanted. I think one of the best pieces of advice I got was given by my future sister in law, she said, " Four months down the road, the ring won't matter. What will matter is the two of you and your relationship." I've come to see how true that counsel is. Yes, you want to make your wedding nice, and have the nicest rings, and the prettiest reception, but when it all comes down to it the most important thing is the two of you who have promised to love, cherish, and help each other through everything in life. What matters is the love you have promised to nurture so it can continue to grow. So when it comes to getting married, enjoy the day, enjoy the reception, but most of all focus on the promises you are making and the one you are making them with.
-Lacey
Saturday, February 6, 2016
I Know This Isn't The Easiest Topic
Know that everything I say in this blog I say with the utmost respect for all people.
This week has been an interesting week as far as topics go. We have been discussing gender roles and same sex attraction, which are probably two of the most touchy subjects someone could talk about in today's world. So here are some thoughts that I have had over the last week.......
I am all about equality, however, I would not say that I fall into the category of feminist by any means. That doesn't mean that I don't respect women or think that they are equal to men. I am a woman who believes that men and women are equal, but different, and different for a reason. Women excel in different areas of life than men do, and in my opinion that is completely okay. Just because a man can lift a hundred pounds more than me doesn't make him better than me, because chances are there are other things that I excel at that he isn't skilled with. That's the great thing about men and women. We are able to come together with different talents and abilities to help, lift, and serve each other. I feel that is how it is supposed to be. Men and women are different because we need differences. We need differences in opinions. We need differences in talents and abilities. We need differences in everything, because that is part of what makes life interesting, and possible.
Same sex attraction is becoming more and more evident in the world today. Now I must admit that I do not support the idea of gay and lesbian relationships, however that doesn't mean that I shun those people. I have friends that have struggled with those emotions, and I don't love them any less for it. I've come to understand that different people have different struggles. I don't know the exact circumstances of people who are struggling with same sex attraction, but I feel that those feelings are struggles that some people deal with in life. Others may disagree, and that's okay because we each have a right to our own ideas. I have come to know and believe for myself that marriage between a man and a women is a relationship that God established to bring more of His children to earth. I guess you could say that is why I can be so passionate about this topic, because it is between a man and a women that children are able to be created.That doesn't mean that God loves people who are struggling with same sex attraction less than people who don't struggle with that. God loves all people no matter what their struggles are. I know many will disagree, but also know that I still respect that your opinion may be different than mine. Regardless of opinions, we are all people and should respect each other.
This week has been an interesting week as far as topics go. We have been discussing gender roles and same sex attraction, which are probably two of the most touchy subjects someone could talk about in today's world. So here are some thoughts that I have had over the last week.......
I am all about equality, however, I would not say that I fall into the category of feminist by any means. That doesn't mean that I don't respect women or think that they are equal to men. I am a woman who believes that men and women are equal, but different, and different for a reason. Women excel in different areas of life than men do, and in my opinion that is completely okay. Just because a man can lift a hundred pounds more than me doesn't make him better than me, because chances are there are other things that I excel at that he isn't skilled with. That's the great thing about men and women. We are able to come together with different talents and abilities to help, lift, and serve each other. I feel that is how it is supposed to be. Men and women are different because we need differences. We need differences in opinions. We need differences in talents and abilities. We need differences in everything, because that is part of what makes life interesting, and possible.
Same sex attraction is becoming more and more evident in the world today. Now I must admit that I do not support the idea of gay and lesbian relationships, however that doesn't mean that I shun those people. I have friends that have struggled with those emotions, and I don't love them any less for it. I've come to understand that different people have different struggles. I don't know the exact circumstances of people who are struggling with same sex attraction, but I feel that those feelings are struggles that some people deal with in life. Others may disagree, and that's okay because we each have a right to our own ideas. I have come to know and believe for myself that marriage between a man and a women is a relationship that God established to bring more of His children to earth. I guess you could say that is why I can be so passionate about this topic, because it is between a man and a women that children are able to be created.That doesn't mean that God loves people who are struggling with same sex attraction less than people who don't struggle with that. God loves all people no matter what their struggles are. I know many will disagree, but also know that I still respect that your opinion may be different than mine. Regardless of opinions, we are all people and should respect each other.
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